tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post1313495377690728154..comments2023-03-25T03:46:29.201-05:00Comments on Our Ethiopian Adoption Journey: What would you do?Chad, Laura, Sara and Sethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10600626654475749083noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-45166287090564687552009-01-09T09:37:00.000-06:002009-01-09T09:37:00.000-06:00Lovely blog and interesting post. I would not real...Lovely blog and interesting post. I would not really care about the candy but have no problem talking about it: did you get enough to eat? is there still lots of candy left or should i buy some more?<BR/><BR/>One very responsible girl had her boyfriend here during the eve, only found out the next day from my kids. (ages 21,19 and it seemed to go well) But she never asked or told and i have not had her back. <BR/><BR/>stories like this make me more grateful to finally have an ETH nanny...skSandra Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11307606747572087286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-87923162103867094892008-12-02T09:10:00.000-06:002008-12-02T09:10:00.000-06:00I would have her back. I agree with supermommy abo...I would have her back. I agree with supermommy about leaving her a basket (or plate) of something for herself. As a teen, I was known as the neighborhood babysitter, and I was always very uncomfortable being told to 'help myself' and would never have anything. I didn't want them to feel that I was going through the cupboards or fridge. As well, when they left me something it made me feel important. I never did their housework. I would, however, always clean up behind our 'play' and if the kids were in bed for a while before they came home I would clean up any dishes that may have been left before they went out. It was important to remember that I was there for the kids. My concern would be that the cleaning up is a cover for the sneakiness. I have had sitters steal large, important things from me (and one was a very wonderful girl that I was close to)I think taking the candy IS cause for concern. It isn't just 'candy' it's 'taking' something. <BR/><BR/>JoanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-34201345527550877182008-11-25T08:50:00.000-06:002008-11-25T08:50:00.000-06:00I would have her back. If that had happened to me...I would have her back. If that had happened to me as a kid I would have been mortified! It's just candy. I wouldn't suspect her of being a hard core thief just yet ;)<BR/>Honestly, I wouldn't even address it. <BR/>Perhaps I'm projecting a bit - I have a real sweet tooth and I could see myself doing the same thing as a teen. I would never have taken anything else, and I wouldn't have even taken the treats unless I was told I could eat what I found. :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262886759774304908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-72557224296521429942008-11-22T23:30:00.000-06:002008-11-22T23:30:00.000-06:00I have had these feelings before too.She probably ...I have had these feelings before too.<BR/>She probably took you very literally when you said she can eat whatever is in the kitchen! The fact that you saw the jawbreakers fall out of her pocket was probably embarrasing enough for her, so I doubt she would take anything else. I would have her back but I would leave her a little basket of goodies labelled "babysitter snacks♥" Tell her she can have anything in the basket ONLY!♥ Good Luck!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14006826638813754288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-60292370924961278652008-11-22T17:13:00.000-06:002008-11-22T17:13:00.000-06:00I would talk to her about it. It's fair for you t...I would talk to her about it. It's fair for you to say that if she wants to take some of your treats for later, she can take X number, but that sneaking them like that is not what you expect of an honest girl like her. Make sure she knows how you feel about her as a sitter -- that you think she is great with Sara, polite, amiable, but sneaking is not okay. It is different than jewellery, but what if she found a loonie in your couch or some quarters on the counter? What then, is fair game? It's a silly thing -- taking candy -- but I still think it's worth a serious conversation.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390420401346933272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-42450158968949950892008-11-22T10:14:00.000-06:002008-11-22T10:14:00.000-06:00It's a hard call. My gut tells me she was just wan...It's a hard call. My gut tells me she was just wanting some candy for later. But...you never know.Loriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07273092236646914254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-28102098561224113852008-11-21T18:50:00.000-06:002008-11-21T18:50:00.000-06:00I would feel the same as you do. Next time she bab...I would feel the same as you do. Next time she babysits maybe remind her before you go out that she's more than welcome to eat any food in the house but add that it's meant to stay in the house and not be taken home (you could say this lightheartedly and give her a wink just so she knows you haven't forgotten about the incident but you are not angry about it). I think that's what I would do....And just in case, you could start hiding your jewelry.Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16989466282881739783noreply@blogger.com