tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post93746941172478384..comments2023-03-25T03:46:29.201-05:00Comments on Our Ethiopian Adoption Journey: Feeling defeated.Chad, Laura, Sara and Sethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10600626654475749083noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-32785512928229358812009-01-04T18:22:00.000-06:002009-01-04T18:22:00.000-06:00I can totally relate to this entry, and i apprecia...I can totally relate to this entry, and i appreciate your honesty. Only those of us who are waiting can truly understand this. I currently only have a k9 child so the need for our children is overwhelming at times. hopefully xmas 2009 the wait is FINALLY over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-23053551289119494932008-11-18T16:37:00.000-06:002008-11-18T16:37:00.000-06:00I think you need to do what is right for you Andre...I think you need to do what is right for you Andrea. In truth, for me, although many of my family and friends have no idea what this is like, most are my biggest supporters and advocates. So, as much as some people not understanding frustrate me, I appreciate that people care and ask how our journey is moving forward. Also, I feel that part of my responsibility of being an adoptive and prospective adoptive mom is to educate, advocate, set straight, or inform others about the adoption process - there are so many misconceptions and myths, I am glad that I can make a difference, at least in a small way.<BR/><BR/>With all that said, all my "virtual" friends are one of my main sources of comfort. So, please check in anytime, it is part of our responsilibity to support each other. Thank you for your words of support - I hope I can repay the favor.<BR/><BR/>LauraChad, Laura, Sara and Sethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10600626654475749083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-54100336968643209342008-11-18T13:53:00.000-06:002008-11-18T13:53:00.000-06:00Thanks for being so honest in your post... while i...Thanks for being so honest in your post... while it definitely sucks that any of us have to be in this boat as long as we're here its nice to know we're not alone :-)<BR/><BR/>I really connected with your comment about feeling like a fraud with friends. My husband and I have opted not to tell people (outside of our references and immediate family) until some as yet undetermined date in the future. Most days I know this is a really good decision because we don't have to deal with the daily questions etc... but a lot of the time I also feel like a huge fraud - here we are going through this huge thing and most of the people around me have no idea. Am I really being true to them, to my staff, to myself if they don't know what is going on? <BR/><BR/>Funny that a whole group of, for the most part, total strangers, know more about the most important thing we've ever done than most of the people around us in our lives everday.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the opportunity to share in response to your post. Hang in there... Aandreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00282217594247342772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-36804402295930021162008-11-17T08:58:00.000-06:002008-11-17T08:58:00.000-06:00I don't know if you got my email, Laura, but I sho...I don't know if you got my email, Laura, but I should have typed .ca after the willowdalewhimsy@yahoo part, not .com... <BR/>RamonaRamonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11543009756679073312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-9528982644136067432008-11-16T11:17:00.000-06:002008-11-16T11:17:00.000-06:00Oh you have written what has been in my heart many...Oh you have written what has been in my heart many times.Ranavan https://www.blogger.com/profile/16813747774603866918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-44722794251601211102008-11-14T13:13:00.000-06:002008-11-14T13:13:00.000-06:00Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement...Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement...it is a true blessing to have you fine women to lean on for support.<BR/><BR/>Laura<BR/><BR/>P.S. Ramona, I tried emailing but it bounded back...my email is lcmorrison@shaw.caChad, Laura, Sara and Sethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10600626654475749083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-22728986556345754732008-11-13T19:00:00.000-06:002008-11-13T19:00:00.000-06:00I so know where your're coming from. This has been...I so know where your're coming from. This has been a rotten week for me too.<BR/><BR/>It's hard seeing referrals coming in so slowly.<BR/><BR/>Things just HAVE to start moving.Loriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07273092236646914254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-16497373700888741752008-11-13T15:38:00.000-06:002008-11-13T15:38:00.000-06:00Hi Laura- I can totally relate and I think that th...Hi Laura- I can totally relate and I think that those of us this in process all know what you are going through. There is nothing I can say to make you feel better and this is probably just the beginning of the ups and downs that you will go through. We are now at 12 months and 1 week and it is the support of all my follow adoption friends that is helping me survive. Please contact me anytime you need to vent or a shoulder to cry on. <BR/><BR/>CarolynCarolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390129976407749638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-9568422369225099062008-11-13T11:14:00.000-06:002008-11-13T11:14:00.000-06:00Hi. I just came across your blog. I must say tha...Hi. I just came across your blog. I must say that I can hear your fears and frustrations- we are inching up on the 13 month mark of waiting for our referral from Ethio. Originally thought we'd be home now, but nope, still waiting... This isn't an easy journey! I look forward to following your journey to holding your kids!<BR/>Ramona<BR/>PS you can email me if you want to to see me blog willowdalewhimsy at yahoo.com (without the spaces and using the @ sign)Ramonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11543009756679073312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-16534033439800065382008-11-13T10:51:00.000-06:002008-11-13T10:51:00.000-06:00Hi Laura - Hang in there. I think your feelings a...Hi Laura - Hang in there. I think your feelings are consistent with so many others. I try not to think about the wait, and it helps that I have a very long to do list here at home to get things ready for our future child. I find reading blogs helpful (but I tend to stay away from chat rooms because they make the wait seem longer). I hope you hear some good news soon. Kind regards, CaraCarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01705012021821646185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-81730453149023609042008-11-13T10:36:00.000-06:002008-11-13T10:36:00.000-06:00Hi Laura, I think everything you are feeling is no...Hi Laura, I think everything you are feeling is normal and even though you feel guilty you shouldn't. I'm one of those parents to be that can't have children of my own and I don't ever look down on you for wanting your child home before mine gets here. It's your child no matter the circumstances and you will want him/her home now. I also find it hard when I see new people join the board and they are ahead of us in the process. I always feel like the goal is unreachable, but with the support of others we will all get through it together and all be thankful for each other in the end. Hang in there.Natalie and Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12381155329200596086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-83634158191086801102008-11-13T09:01:00.000-06:002008-11-13T09:01:00.000-06:00Hi Laura,Sorry to hear that you are down. It's not...Hi Laura,<BR/>Sorry to hear that you are down. It's not an easy process, there is no doubt about that. I find it hard when people ask if we have heard anything because it just reminds me that we have no news but I appreciate them asking because some people don't even remember we are adopting (I guess because I don't have a pregnant belly to show off). I have told my friends that I actually find it easier to wait when I'm not checking the blogs all the time. Having said that, I seem to be addicted to it lately. I haven't seen the long list of families waiting and to be honest, I'm glad. I'm really hoping for a winter referral (by Feb.) Do you think I'm dreaming?Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16989466282881739783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2784135403058574688.post-19739892629045487182008-11-13T08:56:00.000-06:002008-11-13T08:56:00.000-06:00I hear you. It is an all-consuming process and it...I hear you. It is an all-consuming process and it's hard not to have it in your mind even when you are already blessed with a child. I feel guilty when I hear from couples with (as of yet) no children, and while I love my boy, I still ache for my girl. And even though I've only officially begun to wait, it already seems like I've been waist-deep in it for so long. And the given timelines when I started? Yeah, I thought my babe would be home by the end of the school year. Now I'm hoping Christmas 2009, but even that is optimistic. It sucks. Simple as that. It's a rotten place to be, in limbo. I'm with you (and everyone else waiting): I just want it to be done.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390420401346933272noreply@blogger.com