That's easy - being "just" a mom for a full 9 months on parental leave (wish it was 12 months, but won't go there) with both my babies, my new one and Sara.
When we got the call about Sara I had only been at my new job for two months, it was a term position and I was just beginning to establish myself in my career. So Chad and I decided that he would take the parental leave - the WHOLE parental leave. I would wake up every morning, pick my sleeping baby up from her crib and bring her (with a bottle) to our bed next to half-asleep Chad. I would kiss them both goodbye and would think about them ALL day. We would talk on the phone several times a day and if I was lucky, Chad and Sara would meet me for lunch on occasion. I would literally speed home and RUN into the house and spend every second I could holding and kissing my baby.
Chad would send me pictures of Sara doing "firsts" during the day, like standing at the baby gate, drinking from a sippy cup and blowing a kiss. Chad even went to a few "Mom and me" groups - Chad and all the ladies - they loved it -he loved it - everyone was happy. Chad was not the typical stay-at-home parent, I did not come home to a dinner or laundry done, BUT I would come home to renovations central, our whole basement was renovated by Chad between diapering, feedings and napping.
He made me laugh so many times with all his parenting ideas/inventions - my favourite was that with each diaper change he would write (with a big black felt marker) across the top of Sara's diaper, in BIG bold letters, the time when he changed her diaper, so he would remember when she needed to be changed again - every two hours, whether she needed it or not, because that is what "the books" said. He is still convinced that he invented the baby wipe warmer.
To this day, to be funny, when Sara does something well he will say "Well Laura, I DID raise her, it is no wonder she is so good."
The ONLY thing that got me through the 9 months of leaving Sara everyday was knowing that, NO MATTER WHAT, I would be taking the leave with our second, and then I would have my time with Sara too. Now that I am in a permanent position and have been at the same job for a few years now, I am so anxious for it to be my time with my babies.
That is what I am looking forward to the most...being "just" a mom.