Thursday, November 11, 2010

Limbo

Things did not go well at court last Friday in Ethiopia and we are once again left in limbo with our adoption. It is not clear at this time what is going to happen.

Our next court date is scheduled for November 25. We predict that it will go one of two ways - it will end quickly and badly on the 25th, or we are in for a very long fight on our hands, with no guarantees of success.

We are broken and hurting. We feel like we are being tortured and punished. I touched him and kissed him...and now he is being ripped from our hearts.

55 comments:

Curvy Runner said...

Oh Laura, I am so sorry to hear about this stressful time that you are experiencing. This whole process is so hard, and heart breaking, and just plain not fair. We will keep your family in our prayers.

Karen said...

No, no, no. I am so sorry.

I'll be thinking of your family on the 25th and hope things go much better than you fear.

Jenny said...

WHAT, oh no. so so sorry


Jenny

Ashleigh, Ben, Noah and Tait said...

Laura,
these are likely shallow words as you read them but truly heartfelt. i've been checking your blog often since your post about seth and wondering why we haven't heard anything. you have been on my mind a ton. truly, please pm me if there is anything i can do. we're praying for you and if there's anything specific please let me know!
ashleigh

Joy said...

Oh my...this is such sad news. I will continue to hope and pray for a joyful outcome, and endurance for whatever is to come.

D Dae said...

What??? I thought with this new process they ensure the adoption was viable before having the adoptive parents travel half way around the world? I thought there was something in place to protect you. This is crazy. I am so sorry this has happened. If there is anything we can do, let us know.

Connie said...

I am so sorry to hear this. This is heartbreaking. I truly hope it ends well and that he'll be in your arms forever sooner than expected.

Anna said...

Oh, Laura, I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how hard this is especially after being able to see Seth and hold him. My prayers are with you. I hope and pray that things will go better on the 25th.
It was very nice meeting you in person in E.!

Maria said...

OH Laura, I'm so so sorry, I checked your blog daily, I so wanted to know if there would be some good court news, I'm shocked. I also thought the new rules would protect this.
I'm so sorry and I will sent all my good vibes over there and hopefully, you will have good news on the 25th.

Thinking about you and you family

Shawn and Laura said...

So sorry to hear this news.
We will be thinking of you!
Laura

Dana said...

Laura, I am sooooo sorry. I don't even know what to say. If you need to talk, vent, cry..... I'm here.

Carolyn said...

WHAT????? This is terrible news- I am so so sorry. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help out.


Carolyn

Historica said...

I am so sorry for you and your family. I hope your situation will be resolve soon and Seth will be with his forever family.

Melissa said...

I am so sorry to hear about this. I imagine that having to travel to Ethiopia and meeting Seth must make things so much more complicated and painful for you.

Are you still in Ethiopia?

Melissa (on Imagine's waitlist)

june said...

Oh Laura. I am so sorry to hear this. I know this is a risk of travelling to be at the first date but I can't believe it is playing out like this for you. I'm thinking of you guys.

shannon said...

Oh Laura,

I am so sorry and scared. As the days went on I had a bad feeling that something was not in place,
Please know we are here and ready to battle and hold you up as need be.
Sending you all the strength and courage and hope time goes fast to get you to the 25th
Much love
Shannon

Sharon L. said...

Laura...no. No. No. No. I can't belive this is what you are going through. This just breaks my heart...

Hi from Ruth! said...

I am praying for a miracle, Laura, and for peace for the three of you.

On my knees for you.

Ruth

Dianne said...

Oh Laura, I'm so, so sorry. Praying for all of you.

Kendra said...

So sorry to hear this Laura. I hope that things go well on the 25th and that things go smoothly after.

brandi said...

Hi guys,

I just want you to know that I'm sorry for your hurt and pray that everything gets sorted out quickly and justly.

Lots of love from us, Brandi

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your sad news, hoping the 25th in THE day!

blessings,
shirley

Rebecca said...

Oh No! Soo sorry to hear this! I hope things go better than anticipated. My thoughts are with you.

BCMommy said...

This is hard to understand...like D Dae's mom said, I thought all of the paperwork gathering etc. was supposed to prevent this from happening! Do you feel comfortable sharing what it is that is making them hesitant to approve the adoption?
I will be keeping you in my thoughts for the 25th.

:(
Claire

The Warren Family said...

oh no! So sorry to hear this...
the wait has already been so long and so difficult I feel so bad that you now have something else to deal with. I will be checking back on your blog often, sending lots of positive vibes that this will work out for you. Let us know if there is anything we can do to help. Shannon

Derrick, Alysia, and Levi said...

Oh Laura! I don't even know what to say. This is not at all the blog post I expected as I waited for you to get back from Ethiopia and post more about your trip. I am sooooo sooooo sorry and I will pray that things go well on the 25th and that Seth will soon become a member of your family forever.

Alysia

Kelly said...

Feeling so sad for you Laura.
I will be praying for you.
Praying you will hear November 25th
that "He is Yours"

Hugs to you!

Natalie and Chris said...

I can't believe i'm reading this. Last week I was so happy you were finally meeting your son...and now this...there is something wrong with this program for everyone to be getting hurt like this, it's not right. You are your family are in my thoughts.
natalie

emily and mike said...

Oh Laura and Chad, I am SO sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say I am just speechless. I will be keeping you and Seth in my prayers.

Sharla said...

Oh no Laura. I am so sorry. I had no idea that something like this could even happen. Like everyone else, I am just in complete disbelief and don't know what to say.

I cannot even imagine what you have been going through since that court date, whatever it is that happened there, having to leave on Ethiopia after having met Seth and make that long plane trip back knowing that you may not get to complete the adoption. There are just no words.

I am with Ruth though. I will mark the 25th on my calendar and be praying for a miracle.

Lancelot and Lady's Mom said...

Oh honey...I am Sooooooo so so sorry to hear this. It just breaks my heart. What happened? How could things have turned around so badly and so quickly? I pray for this little boy to soon be in your arms again and that the court hearing will go well....even better than you can hope... on the 25th. I feel so frustrated with the adoption world right now. So many kids who would love to have a home with a mommy and a daddy and so many good homes waiting for them and it just seems that bureaocracy (sorry can't spell right now...too upset) is just getting in the way. We have friends who were made legal parents of a little boy in Jamaica back in Spring and due to inner fighting within the court system in that country they STILL have not been able to bring him home. It's so frustrating.

Gwen said...

NO! I'm so sorry to read this, Laura. I'm thinking of you. <3
Gwen

darci said...

oh no laura!! This is terrible. I'm not sure what is going on, because I don't even understand the process well, but oh , I will be praying for you! This is just so so hard. I don't understand why it has to be so hard to bring home our children! There are no words to say but please know that we are thinking of you and praying for a miracle on the 25th. darci

shannon said...

Laura,
I was just stopping by again to tell you , you are in my thoughts and prayers and sending you all the courage I can.
Still thinking of you and you are not forgotten or alone
Much love
Shannon

Anonymous said...

Laura, I'm so sorry to hear this! I check your blog every so often and was NOT expecting this. I will also mark the 25th down and pray for the court date that all may go well. Hang in there... We know you can.
~Liesl (sibling list)

Ramona said...

Laura. I have no great words of hope or anything like that. But I am here, praying for you and hurting with you. I can only imagine having been in your place... not passing court several times over was horrid, but we never held or kissed our children... I so want to see Seth in your arms....
Ramona

shauna said...

Laura, I am so sorry to read your devastating news. I will be thinking of you and your family on the 25th and hoping for the best.

La Belle Vie said...

I am so so sorry and sending prayer after prayer your way. Lots of love xx

Ranavan said...

Laura,

I don't even know what to say that hasn't already been said...we are praying and sending all the positive energy we can.

Cilla said...

Laura, I'm very sorry to hear this and I'll be praying for you and your family as well. I hope that everything works out in the end for you.

Cilla

K_I_T_ said...

I am so sorry Laura. I don't know what to say. other than what the heck.

Karen said...

Oh no! This limbo must be about the most difficult place to be in the adoption journey! I will too be praying for good news on the 25th!

Tasha said...

I am so saddened to hear this news. I am praying for you and your family.
Sincerely, Tasha

Ramona said...

I can't stop thinking of you guys....
Ramona

Sarah Rodgerson said...

Oh no,I am soooo sorry to hear this. I am praying for you guys and really hope the next time I check back that there is good news....


Sarah

shannon said...

HI Laura,
I cant imagine how you are even getting by
but was stopping by to say you are not forgotten and all my good vibes are going out to you and across the ocean for your much needed miracle.
lots of hugs and love
Shannon

Maria said...

Laura and Chad,

Just a note, i will be thinking about you guys tomorrow! Sending strength and courage and a miracle.

Maria

Kelly said...

You have been on my heart. Praying for good news tomorrow!
Kelly

Dawn said...

Laura, I read your blog but haven't posted before. I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for a successful court date tomorrow.

Anonymous said...

Praying, praying, praying for you all. Pat

Tammy said...

Thinking about you and praying for good news tomorrow. We're all here for you.

Tammy

Tracy said...

Can't imagine the pain you are in. So sorry to hear this. Praying for you and hoping for the best news possible tomorrow!

The Warren Family said...

Thinking of you this morning and hoping you get some goos news!

Gwen said...

Thinking about you this morning, Laura.

Anonymous said...

you have been in my thoughts all day, praying for good news.

shirley
XO