Monday, August 16, 2010

There is a boy waiting and a family without a court date...

There is a boy we have never met but have fallen in love with. This boy is not our son, in fact, to most he would be considered a stranger. Yet, this boy is in our dreams each night. He has a man and woman waiting to become his parents and a girl waiting to become his big sister. This boy has changed our life forever. Is it possible to miss someone you have never met and know very little about? It has been one month since our referral and we are still flying with delight.

I am trying to only think of all the good things to come, yet, being realistic about the wait ahead. Today was the first day I didn't feel like flying! We have already had a glitch in our process - With the delays that occurred at our local agency with sending our updated dossier to Imagine and it requiring authentication in Ottawa, it was impossible for us to apply for a court date prior to the closure. I have really been trying to stay positive and not dwell on this delay too much (because this is still a time to be celebrating and I still want to feel joy), but now that EVERYONE that received a referral in July have announced their court dates for when courts re-open (Sept 30, Oct 6, and 3 on Oct 21), I have suddenly become a bit sad and frustrated. We will not know when our court date will be until mid-Oct (that is when all the others will be welcoming their new babies as members of their families). We have been told that our court date will likely not be scheduled until the end of Oct or more realistically, sometime in November. I keep trying to tell myself that it will all be OK ,and besides, what's another month or two at this point - right?

Don't get me wrong, there is a boy I already love and I feel blessed that we have his beautiful face to dream about. BUT, having a court date would bring us a sense of comfort and a feeling of knowing that we are well on our way to a son...

7 comments:

emily and mike said...

oh man, I would be having a hard time with this too! I hope that court date gets booked for the end of October and goes through the first time! Hang in there. And just focus on waiting for those amazing updates where you get new pictures! Those are the best : )

BCMommy said...

Ugh...I would feel the same way! And while you feel happy for those other families, you can't help but feel that you should have been in that group too. That just sucks!

Historica said...

Adoption process is so hard and I understand how frustrating this situation is for your family. I hope your court date will come soon and will work after the first time.

Ramona said...

Oh Laura. You've been through so much already- not this delay too! I can so remember missing my children before meeting them... I so want to see you adorable little guy officially yours and in your arms.
Ramona

alicia said...

I thought about you guys when I read the court date posts. I hope this time goes quickly for you.
alicia

elsie hiebert said...

I would also be going crazy at this point. Frustrating that it was your agencies mistake that made this wait longer. I pray that the time will go fast for you guys.

Janice said...

Fingers crossed for a court date sooner rather than later. : )